When the funeral is over and you have concluded your dealings with the funeral director, the next step is memorialisation. This is the process of marking the final resting place of your loved one’s body with an appropriate memorial plaque or stone. In the case of cremation, it will also include choosing somewhere to place the ashes. Alternatively, you may elect to scatter the ashes in a place significant to your loved one’s memory, perhaps at sea, or over a sporting field, or at another site that has personal significance to you and your family.
For this step of memorialisation you communicate directly with the cemetery or crematorium. The funeral director is not involved.
At a Cemetery:
In the process of arranging the funeral you will have established who is responsible for the cemetery of your choice, either the local council or a private company or trust. You will now need to talk to them about the options available to you and the regulations that govern your choices. If you have chosen a site in the monumental section, you will be able to erect a gravestone and choose the inscription. If you have chosen a site in a lawn section of the cemetery, you may still choose the inscriptions, but generally will be limited to a plaque on a base set into the ground. The cemetery authority will be able to answer your questions about the nature and size of your memorial, and the costs involved. If your family already owns a grave site and you have chosen cremation, it may be helpful to ask about the internment (burying) of ashes in that site.
At a Crematorium:
Crematoria usually offer a variety of choices to memorialise your loved one. Garden beds, family estates, memorial walls and scattering within their grounds are likely to be some of your options. Their consultants will outline your options and costs. If you choose to take the ashes away for your personally chosen alternative, they will provide them to you in a sealed receptacle.
Currently, no laws exist in Queensland to restrict your choice of place to scatter cremated ashes. However, before you act, it would be wise to secure the consent of the governing body of any particular site you choose, such as a park, sporting field, racetrack, waterway or other place.